To Love And Have Sex Is One Thing, To Marry Whole Another
Our society and brain has a thing where it makes you think you are in love when you are not. It forces you into finding that person, to fall in love, propose because that’s what ‘all’ do at this age. You may be comfortable and enjoy someone’s company but partner? That’s whole different stuff. Love doesn’t need to occur to you just because it occurred to your friend.
Here’s one such story. Read to know as they narrate their tale.
SHE
It
all began in the college. Wait, not college but in school itself. Yes,
it’s that old. I don’t remember who started it first. Given the fact
that I was kind of recluse and shy back in those days (and still I’m.
Don’t I?), we can safely say it was him. He was from a rich family, so
was I. He was flamboyant, I was no less. I don’t know about perfect
match but we were quite of a character back in the days. Our other
classmates used to envy our households — born with a silver spoon if you
may. It was certain for both of us to call ourselves
made-for-each-other. Did we understand what it meant back then? Perhaps
not. ‘Couples’ were in ‘style’ back then. And there was no other ‘equal’
in whole class for us to pair with. You see, wealth comes with few
restrictions as well. You might have heard how in India ‘couples’ are
made to tie their knot in arranged marriages. Wealth at times makes you
blind to see any other choice you’ve as a partner. It funnels your
choices, it blinds you to look at your favorable mates through the glass
of society. If you think, it makes your future easy. An upper class
falling for lower class, a poor to rich, or any such couple with
contrasting backgrounds most of the time ends up facing odds that they
have to deal later. Love they say, just happens. And once it happens,
you just go dive on to that steep slope from where there’s no return.
Albeit the one with heartbreaks which of course are harsh. We had no
such. We, in our individual capacities had planned everything in
advance. We planned intuitively to fall for each other because we
together had future. We assumed. You see it’s not that bad. Arrange
marriages are meant for couples to find love after knots have been tied,
here we were committing ourselves on our own before finding love. Hey,
if arrange married couples can find love, we too can.
So
we fell in love; Calculated love. We both roamed cities, went for
walks, shared ice creams, exchanged gifts, he recharged my phone and
scores of other things. Everything you see in those over-the-top
romantic movies, we tried. We fell in love with ourselves. We did. Or we
at least believed we did. It’s kind of a cool thing to be couple in
college days. And we were that cool couple. He brought fancy bike every
other year and we went on drives with every eye from college observing
with envy at us. In those outings sometimes he made pass at me. I
responded. In movies also they did these stuff. They kissed on cheeks.
We kissed on lips as well. He wasn’t a pro I can say for I didn’t felt
the way the hero from that movie felt when he touched his love
interest’s lips. But we did. There were times when he signaled he wanted
more. But like a typical Indian girl that I was, I refused. I said,
let’s do it only when we get married. He was kind. He obliged. We both
were happy for ourselves. We really wanted to get married. We wanted to
try things we didn’t got to try. We wanted to get married.
He
She
was beautiful. I wasn’t any less either. Remember that boy gang from
college who hit gym for those gains that made their shirts swell. I was
gang leader of one such. I enjoyed her company. I enjoyed the envious
eyes that were passed at me. Girls of my class wanted to date me. Who
doesn’t want to sit behind fancy bikes? Expensive gifts? Have her phone
recharged regularly? It’s not that I hated any of that part. I did
enjoy. She was every boy’s dream in my classroom. We had our crush on
other girls and constantly flirted with them but they weren’t as natural
as her. She didn’t wear any makeup except for the glossy lip color.
Despite she looked more beautiful than others. The possibility that we
both could fall in love in school and college, and get married
successfully with null or minimal family opposition was always present
somewhere in our mind. We were calculative lovers. It made sense to both
of us. We didn’t talked about this meaninglessness though. We talked
about romance, love, partner for seven births and such. My friends knew I
loved her. But my family didn’t. But I knew all along that someday I
have to tell them.
One
fine day, I let our decision slip into family conversation. There was
slight surprise and arguments but it didn’t took me hard to convince
them once they knew whose daughter are they going to receive in their
home as daughter-in-law. It finally made the cut and we tied the knot in
a spectacle of a wedding. There were people all around the place. Crowd
and crowd and crowd. But in our heads there was silence. Our thoughts
were running on one way street. We would get to attempt that one thing
we both agreed to delay until married. Did I say we? Well, it’s she!
SHE
I
don’t know why our films have obsessed us about sex on same day as
marriage. You get tired of elaborate ceremonies all day. Actually, from
many days. But anyhow, this was the day we both agreed years ago. It was
D-day. No, we didn’t plan for family planning or how we were going to
lead our lives rest of the life. You see, we had huge sums in our
parents’ bank accounts. Our life was set. Coming to the present day and
not going into any finer details of the night, we did it. We did it
finally. It was good. He was good. He didn’t seem any novice. He didn’t
seemed quite the kind of guy my friends who had attempted D-day before
marriage. He was my honey pie. He was great.
HE
She
was looking bright as sun kissed calendar model that day. The flesh in
her body was in some healthy weight unlike those zero-weight models. I
loved her for who she was. She was perfect for me. And today was an
important day. Without any more wait, let me tell you, the sex was good.
She almost entirely submitted to me. I was shocked in the beginning for
sometime but hey, this was D-day. I performed like a pro. I love my
wife. I love her.
SHE
I
loved him as well. He was great in all aspects. He worked tirelessly in
his father’s business and as time passed. I came to know I was
pregnant. To begin with, vomiting brought the early signs. I vomited and
vomited whatever I ate. My taste buds had gone for their prized
holiday. The food had lost its taste entirely. Everything tasted same
and everything that I ate came out. I lost interest in food that I once
cherished to pick in my plate. I stopped eating for a while. I wanted
him by my side. He was not free on the other hand. He was busy with his
work.
HE
She refused to eat anything. I brought fruits when she said the regular everyday food started to make her go yuck.
I asked her what she wanted. She said nothing. She just stopped taking
any food. For three continuous days, she refused to eat. It angered me.
It angered my family as well. But there was nothing we could do. We
don’t wanted to force her into eating what she wanted not. I was
clueless. And on forth day morning, she fell unconscious on ground. I
knew in heart of my heart that this was coming. I knew. Doctor was
called, a small piercing was made on her hand for glucose to flow into
her body. The sight was not so cheery. My wife and child inside her were
both lying on bed, helpless. There was nothing I could do.
SHE
All
hell broke lose the day I fell unconscious on ground. I didn’t wanted
to fall. But I believe my body just didn’t knew my tongue and stomach’s
resistance. Tongue was forcing me to have tasteless food while stomach
refused to accommodate that food any longer. I was weak.
In
this moment of need, I wanted my love to be at my side. I wanted him to
console me. I wanted him to say how dearly he loved me at this raw
moment. But I heard he was busy. He is busy.
HE
The
sight at home was not what I could take. As usual there were parties
that my friends went into. I tagged along. I danced with them. Did I
forgot her? No. How could I? The thought of her lying on bed constantly
worried me. Sometimes yes, I did forgot that sight but not longer. I
danced to forget. But somewhere I was agitated. I didn’t liked sitting
beside her anymore. She was no more the pretty girl I married. She was
no more an adventure I agreed to. She no more could handle herself like
the way she did. Something has changed. Something that I probably am
ill-prepared for. I disliked this. I loved her no more, not in the way I did before.
SHE
Things
had changed all of a suddenly. Or did I hit my head when I fall? I
can’t think much. Lying on bed, all I could see from that opening in
door was people passing by. The relatives coming and leaving. They had
their pieces of advice which to be frank, didn’t made any sense to me.
There were too many people around. Many who I can share my thoughts
with. But sometimes you want what your heart desires. It doesn’t like
substitutes howsoever better it may be. I wanted him. I wanted to feel
the warmth his body gave. I wanted to lie beside him. But where was he?
All characters above are fictitious. Or are they? To be frank, they are
not. I have seen a young couple go through this dilemma, if one can call
it just that. It’s not factually their story but vaguely it is theirs
and of many other young couple’s who fell in love for reasons they best
know and jumped to conclusions because that’s how it worked for other
person, or for that protagonist in that famous movie, or that’s how love
happened between those two characters in that book. But my dear friend,
love isn’t a magic potion or math formula, it doesn’t happen the way it
happened to other one. Each one of us are different in our desires and
needs; love is sum total of all things that we desire and things that we
don’t, and for it to work one needs a partner who complements and
shares certain thoughts. And remember always, not all chapters have
happy endings, a book at end has; that person who didn’t turned out good
might just be part of the bad chapter. Learn to move on. You’ll find
your special one. I know it’s easy to say just that. But believe me, I’m
not lying. You’ve to let go of your past if you want your future to
embrace you. It’s hard I know, I also know it’s worth it. Give it a try…
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