Human Relations: How important is it to fulfill day-to-day small promises you and I make?
'I shall call you in the evening,' 'let's meet tomorrow!' or a simple 'don't worry, I shall look into it!' are all and many more are simple nuances of our day-to-day promises which mostly go unfulfilled. Nobody in us is there any 'son of satya Harishchandra' or 'son of the great Mahatma Gandhi'. We all are run-of-the-mill children, born and brought up in a world which reluctantly hesitates to provide importance to an act called 'promise-keeping'.
We all today have
turned to be what they call gallivants.
There is in fact a mad furor all around to perform what world chants as 'important'
and leave aside 'the unimportant'. But in all this running from pillar to post,
are we missing something, something which surpasses every other parameter of categorizing
a work into important or unimportant? Or is it okay to get away with our
current pace, continuing ourselves with our bunker mentality and acting as if
we all are bystanders in this play!
Big or small,
whatever the promise is, we always have tendency of breaking them. In fact most
of us are the masters of broken promises! Every day we tend to break
innumerable promises; promises that we promised to fulfill. And in doing so, we
aren't just eroding the trust levied upon us but in true sense we are
cultivating a behavior of tending to disobey ourselves each time. As Robin
Sharma puts it,
"Every promise you break, no matter
how small and seemingly inconsequential, steadily chips away at your character.
Each time you don't return a phone call when you said you would or miss a
meeting you promised to attend, you erode trust. Each time you don't honor a commitment,
you chip away at the bonds between you and the people you have the privilege to
live with. Every time you avoid doing
right, you fuel the habit of doing wrong." How so ever small the promises
may seem but the implication they hold to others might just be gigantic in their
own way. Each promise you fulfill might certainly garner the necessary trust in
any relationship. And this trust eventually would succeed in surviving your
relationship from all the ups and downs of clumsy and frenzy life. Not to be
forgotten is that, 'the fuel to great loyalty is this act of promise-keeping.'
It is not just the
budding love birds that needs to learn this art of promise-keeping but growing
leaders, old heads of major/minor institutions, friends and every other pupil
who lives on this planet and believes in cohesive life must necessarily start practicing
this wondrous human ritual. Because at the end of the day, it’s not your hefty
salary sheet or certificates of heydays
that's going to fuel your sound sleep but a smile of somebody special, a
promise hard kept certainly would. All the good things of world begin from an
idea however small and great ideas are always intelligent products out of balanced
being. And what makes you balanced and calm is the merry satisfaction of heart
and soul. The food you consume or the luxury you live in will certainly make you
satisfied at those instances of savoring them but what next and how far? Gone
are the days when roti, kapda & makaan (food, cloth & shelter) used
to be the pivotal focus of human life. People of today's age are determined
more to be identified for their loyalty. People today are keenly respected for their
words and the efforts they put in to keep their promises alive.
The society we live in boasts of human
relations and all the great relationships begins with doses of loyalty which in
turn manifests out of small but feebly important acts of keeping one's
promises. Because each time you fulfill a promise, a silent but steady relation
starts budding in. The person at the other end starts feeling important thereby
relying onto you for his everyday nuances. Eventually, you would realize how
beautifully this nuances of life manifolds and enters into your style of
living. Start by fulfilling the small ones for instance; larger ones will
automatically settle down.
'Promise-keeping' is not just an act of
devoting your time for others good but it’s all about honoring the other
person. As you could see, to fulfill a promise, you need to devote your
precious time, a time out of your busy important life. It’s precious because
you can earn possibly everything in this world except an ounce of extra time.
And when you devote some portion of this priceless time to someone, it certainly
mean you value the person at other end, which automatically strengthens the
bond between two individuals and readies them to face the world for good. Just
try keeping the promises you make. Remember by doing so, you aren't doing any
favor to other person but actually providing meaning and value to your own
words which till date where meaningless to everyone as they were never
fulfilled. Change would certainly begin as people start relying upon your
words. And relying upon your words mean they have started weighing your ideas
which in turn signifies the importance they are holding towards you.
It's not as easy as it looks to be but it certainly is worth of an attempt.
Let the candid magic begin…
It's not as easy as it looks to be but it certainly is worth of an attempt.
Let the candid magic begin…
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